Here are our thoughts on some of the burning questions that people have about alcoholism. We hope that you find them useful. However, please remember that these are our personal experiences and they may, or may not, be what you or your partner experiences.
Our style of recording is very loose, this is deliberate. We sit on a couch, start a video camera and talk. We don't use a script and we don't carry out much editing. When we asked our members if we should change this style, the majority said that they liked it as it felt more intimate, as if we were sitting on their couches talking to them instead of lecturing. So we have have kept that style. Hope you like it, if you do let us know.
What is an alcoholic?
Here John and Lou discuss the term alcoholic and one of the problems that arise from using the word alcoholic. As John says here "everybody has a different understanding of an alcoholic is and that can lead to difficulties when using the term with the drinker",
You can find out more about this issue at this page on alcoholism.
Does he have a drinking problem?
We used this approach to create a tool, SHARE, that helps you discuss the problem. You can find out all about share in the Annual and Monthly membership.
What does the alcoholic get from drinking?
In this video John opens up about how alcohol affected him and how he felt without it.
The feedback we have received from other alcoholics is that many of them felt very similar and had much the same relationship with alcohol.
A Message from Lou
In this video Lou talks a little about herself and about the benefits of joining Bottled Up as a full member. We believe that the information in Bottled Up is good but it is action and not information that brings change.
Should I leave?
This completely fails to recognise that the drinker is more than just a problem. He/she is actually a person that you chose to spend a great part of your life with. These advice givers cannot seem to comprehend that you still love the person - not the drinking. What you are looking to find is a way to live with your drinker - preferably without the drinking!